Tools and anchors for ‘being with’ strong emotions
Riding the strong emotional wave to calm waters…
… and doing your best to be consciously aware until it passes.
If we could run away from this pain we would, but the truth is, it does not leave our being unless we find out where it hurts, and tend to the wound.
If you are feeling extreme and hard to bear feelings of heightened fear, fogginess, agitation, tightness, grrr’ing and grating, and rigidity pummelling your whole being, then lay down, curl up into a protective ball with your hand on your heart so you can very tenderly move through releasing the pain. Hold and nurse this emotional wound. Know you are making space for the love and goodness that is already there, by freeing these deeply rooted knots from your mind and releasing them from your physical body.
Strong emotions are your unharnessed energies of crummy thoughts, cries to be heard and hard to handle feelings of wants and needs still waiting to be met and cared for, as you, your younger Self. Finally, you get to hear and tend to your younger Self’s wishes, but as your adult Self right here, right now.
You no longer have to wait for someone to come and give you what you need, and to help care for your most vulnerable feelings. You are now learning to love and care for your Self, in a way that makes you feel happy and fulfilled.
Meeting these painful experiences unlocks and opens the door to your dreams, by bringing a conscious heart felt truth - new reality - to your life.
Breathe.
Breathe deeply - slowly - aware – inward
You know the truth of who you are
Say to your Self, ‘I am not my thoughts. I am not my body. I know who I am. I am made of love’.
Being with strong emotions takes a huge amount of focus, courage and strength without reacting. Please know how strong you are for wanting to understand your feelings so you can be your true Self, fully alive in all the ways you already know how in your heart.
Surrendering
Crummy thoughts can feel real while they are in your head but they are not true, nor are they who you are. They are just made up crummy thoughts and I promise you, they will get weaker and dissolve each time you surrender to what is happening in this moment.
Be tender with your Self. You are learning to care for your whole Self by growing new parts that feel good, nourished and supported. You are creating space by releasing your ego’s untruths so you can hear your real or true Self - the goodness you already are. You are learning to be a best friend to your Self.
The past and future is always alive in the present moment.
You are safe and you are supported. You are learning to hold and nurse your Self and to give to you what was unable to be given as a child. You are unknotting to hear what was once ignored, dismissed and misunderstood.
Surrender to the prickles - breathe - long - deep - focus - inward.
Focus on your breath as a tool for staying anchored.
Your breath is your friend and your reminder you are made of nature by nature because you breathe without thought. Your breath is your sense of harmony when you learn to allow your vulnerabilities to flow through you.
Breathe long and deep. Imagine your Self creating space with each breath.
Let the tears come.
Crying is incredibly healing and very necessary. There is a beauty to releasing tears because you are touching your heart at a very deep level, as intended by nature, to remind you, that you too are nature.
Crying when the rain has come brings you to a deeper and more connected place within your heart. The same is true with the moon cycles, especially a new or full moon.
Hand on your heart
Say aloud, ‘I am here for you’. Lie or sit in a quiet place. Curl inward. Place your hand on your very tender heart and hold it there. Massage the area around your heart if it feels comfortable. Rock back and forwards to comfort the ache.
Let it out
Saying aloud what you feel helps to untangle the confusion.
They are just words and do not reflect your true nature in any way. You are in your sacred space to release all that does not reflect your goodness. This is your time to let it out.
You are here because these feeling need to be heard and held, no matter how your words may sound. They are just words and not the truth of your good, kind and loving nature. Saying aloud how you feel is all a part of creating space.
R.A.I.N
Recognise, and name the feelings/emotions, if you can.
Allow your Self to be with these strong feelings, if you can.
Investigate and understand what is wanting to be heard, if you can.
Nurture your tender Self by smiling and telling your Self you are loved, lovable and made of love. It may feel too hard but when the strong wave of emotion rides to calm waters be sure to let your Self know you are loved. Look in the mirror and say ‘I am loved’. Watch your face to see your response, then smile.
Be one with nature
It is your anchor. Fall into the arms of nature and allow it to hold you. The trees are alive as are all the critters you can hear, see and sense.
Their aliveness, mystery and oneness are a reflection of you.
Focus your gaze
It is your anchor. Let the beauty you are find your gaze. Flowers, objects, perhaps your dog. See their innocence. Remind your Self of your loving innocence.
Focusing your gaze grows your memory muscles for when you are expressing your vulnerabilities to another - so you can gently and assertively hear and see the other and your Self with your full gaze.
Look for inspiration. Turn to those who inspire.
Let the misery of your pain, suffering and cries for help be heard by the power of a greater strength.
Remembering … we all need to feel supported when we are not yet strong enough.
It may be God, or Jesus, or the Buddha. Whoever or whatever gives you strength. If your very deep natural feelings call out to you, then let your Self be comforted by the wise masters, prophets and healers who give comfort. Be inspired by those who had to be strong and who give strength.
Sensitivity
Every part of your being will feel hypersensitive.
Noise will seem louder and more irritating. You may find it excruciating to be around people when all you need to do is protect and take care of where it hurts most. ‘Where does it hurt most?’
If it is all too overwhelming …
…then allow your Self to move away from the pain, from where it is too tender to yet touch.
We all have to be strong enough to meet these very powerful unharnessed energetic parts of our being. It takes time. Move around to help you refocus. Go slow. Stay quiet. Be in your own space until you are ready to face the world.
If you have made it to calm waters
Nourish your Self in all the ways you know how. Listen to what you need most and do your best to meet those needs.
Inspiration will come because you have made space for your Soul/spirit to be heard, and for your heart’s desires to be put into action.
You are never given more than you can handle and you are always supported when you listen and trust your feeling heart and Soul’s wisdom. It is your anchor.
A new determined you will arise.
Fill your Soul with nourishment
Play music. Do what it is that comes to your mind that will bring light and nourishment to your Soul.
Make a cup of tea. Sit in a quiet place and savour every sip. Feel the warm sun on your body. Lay on your back and watch the clouds in the sky. Feel your vastness.
Although this can be very hard to begin with, write about your feelings. Express your Self in a way that helps you understand your feelings.
Let the ideas, passions and newfound swelling of enthusiasm carry you through your days. By being present, staying conscious, you have strengthened your mind and empowered your whole being.
Your Spiritual well-being.
You are learning to love your Self - the right way up
Allowing the minds noise and strong feelings to untangle by courageously meeting them raises our consciousness. Calming the mind and the body strengthens the nervous system. Quietening the mind expands our awareness and strengthens our mind body communion. Anchors us.
